The energy so static
The air so biting cold
The love between lovers gone
Lost in the days of old
The malice and malevolence
The nastiness and spite
The sheer degree of bitterness
In horrid divorce fight
For he now looks at her
With condemnation cruel
And she regards his being with
Contempt – her surging fuel
With greed now on the table
Where once two hearts were one
But there will be no winners for
This battle can’t be won
And everyone’s a loser when
Such acrimony hits
Such sadness, devastation –
Love thrown into lion pits
I wrote this as I witnessed two adults spatting the other day in public over their financial settlement. It is so sad when the greatest of love dissolves but sadder still when there is so much hatred and bitterness connected to it and no more so than when money is lighting that fire.
Divorce (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Why do my boys flick pencils
At each other’s ears?
A way of sibling rivalry
That’s been going on for years
An odd thing some might ponder
Flinging pens about
But at least I should be thankful
As they smile and seldom shout!
My Mum said “Hey the sky is blue”
My Dad “The grass is green”
And Gran said “Look there sits a cat”
And Teacher “That’s the Queen”
And Mrs Smith just down the road
Said “What a horrid day”
And each one always tells the truth
They mean just what they say
Then to me Mum said “How stupid”
And Dad said “Hey, silly”
And Gran said “Be good for your Mum”
And Teacher “So naughty”
And Mrs Smith just down the road
Said “What an ugly view”
So if they all tell me the truth
They must mean me not you!
For as we know the sky is blue
The grass is always green
And I know Gran did see that cat
My teacher saw the queen
So I guess I must be stupid
And silly or not good
And naughty or just plain ugly
For the truth is understood!
An icon illustrating a parent and child (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
“I love you! Just not your behaviour!”
Mum smiled wanting to say
“Come on you brat you’re pushing me
You’re getting in my way
You’re plucking all my nerves
And pushing buttons so
You’re driving me quite crazy
It’s either me or you to go”
“You’re becoming quite a terror
I’m stressed beyond compare
I don’t get why you’re acting up
Now watch out and just beware
‘Cos if I really lose my rag
You’ll know it just you see
I’ll tell your DAD. You just wait!
You’ll go without your tea!”
But instead she smiled so sweetly
Bit her tongue – braced herself
As she loved that little rascal
Even when he was an elf
So she stopped before she started
And looked him in the eye
Holding back she took a deep breath
For he had no alibi
And then she quite calmly said it
Those words that meant so much
“I love you! Just not your behaviour
So sort it out and get in touch!
In touch and find that nicer lad
‘Cos recall there’ll be a fine
If you continue down this road
And fail to toe the line!”
Then she continued in the same vein
Without emotion or despair
Pulling him up so very short
He knew she was being fair
For everything she said was right
And he knew he had been wrong
But most of all by all accounts
He’d changed before too long!
If you ask a teenager anything
There’s one thing they will agree
That the older generation
Don’t have sex but just drink tea
For they think they’re really all too old
And only dare partake
In cordial conversation or
At most a small hand shake
And as for these adolescents’ parents
Well heaven must forbid
The thought of their mums and dads at parties
Come on! Their oldies surely never lived!
And when it comes to sporting prowess,
The games and medals won
The muffin tops and double chins
Suggest those times are now long gone!
Whilst the stories from the old days
Get taken with a pinch of salt
Any idea that a parent comprehends
Is “totes weird” as a default!
And forget empathy and understanding
When parents want the best
For a teen perception takes this to mean
We’ll hound you like a pest
So to all parents rearing teenagers
If you want to still relate
Look at their now and future
For your past is out of date
And smile just oh so quietly
Cos there’s one thing to admit
That years ago you said the same
When you were young and fit!
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Look out parents don’t delay
It’s truly more than DNA
For children are a blend of two
Their genes for sure and their milieu!
“Their environment? How come?” you say.
But it can rewire on the way,
And make a difference; manipulate
Your kids into a different state.
So when you parent and drag them on
Beware for it can go so wrong!
Instead encourage, support and care
With abundant love right in there!
For the environment is absolute
In choosing not to rear a brute
And raising angels all the way
For it’s truly more than DNA!
Your silver hair
Your glistening eyes
Your candid smile
Your wisdom wise
Your warmth and love
Your support and care
Your hand to steady
You’re always there
Your peace, accord
Your total love
Your integral heart
You’re here and now
You’re from the start
You’re life’s elixir
You’re Dad – I’m blessed!
On Father’s Day 2013 for my amazing Dad!